Men who learn their wives are lesbian have unique experiences. Their stories are mostly untold, because of fear or shame. This book provides a voice for these men, a place where they can express what happens when one day they find out that the wife they thought was straight is really not. There are a multitude of feelings ranging from acceptance to anger, from fear to relief, from love to ambivalence. Men with lesbian wives have stories, real life experiences with drama, love, and disappointment ... more »

Men who learn their wives are lesbian have unique experiences. Their stories are mostly untold, because of fear or shame. This book provides a voice for these men, a place where they can express what happens when one day they find out that the wife they thought was straight is really not. There are a multitude of feelings ranging from acceptance to anger, from fear to relief, from love to ambivalence. Men with lesbian wives have stories, real life experiences with drama, love, and disappointment.

The objective of this compendium is to twofold. First, to provide straight men with lesbian wives something to read when they find out - to understand what other men in their situation experience. Second, to reach out to the general population and to amplify the voices of straight men married to gay women.

Motivation for this effort comes in part from the Straight Spouse Network (www.straightspouse.org) and the work of Amity Buxton, author of the book "The Other Side of the Closet" about straight spouses of gay married people dealing with their challenges. Should any monetary gains result from this effort, they will all be donated to the Straight Spouse Network. To protect the privacy of the authors and their families, all men authors will be anonymous as will the people discussed in their writings.  Less